We don’t have to be the parents or parents who never talked or did anything together. Learn to be engaged and invested in your relationship if you hope for that “happily ever after” thing. And just in case you use that excuse about not having the financial means to do things, take a look at the “price-less” ideas below:
Playing a card or board game. When was the last time you took out a deck of cards or a checkers board game? A simple game of Speed could change a quiet evening to one filled with excitement and fun competition.
Prepare the meal. While one makes the main dish, the other could prepare the side dishes or dessert. Or pick some food up on the way home and set up the dining table. Dress up nice in separate rooms and meet back at the table with candles on.
Complete a task together. Lots of teamwork building could be accomplished within just a days work of rearranging a room or tidying up a yard. Talking while being productive is time used wisely while getting to know each other even more.
Read to one another. Whether it be a book on relationships or a short article, reading something together opens up for much conversation.
Pop some popcorn and binge on movies. If talking is not what you’re needing, but just that warm and cozy company, put on those pajamas, grab that blanket, gather all those goodies, get that movie started and cuddle up.
Workout together. Whether you’ve gained an unwanted few or just need to sweat off some tension built up, utilize your partner to make sure you complete a workout. Not only will you feel better when finished, but such team accomplishment is rewarding for the both of your health.
Learn to play an instrument. It is never too late to pick up an instrument and learn the basics to play. Why not get a second ear, or just someone there to make you feel you’re not alone in this new endeavor.
Play speed dating with interval timing to talk. Sometimes, talking to your partner feels like it’s the same conversation over and over (usually is after so many years). Try creating questions to ask one another and take turns to give each other a minute to answer.
Give each other foot massages at the same time. While facing each other sitting on the floor, couch, or bed, massage each other’s feet as you talk about your day. You’ll be both relaxed and at ease with your thoughts.
Create a vision board together. Dream together. Hope together. Visualize together. Plan together aspirations for short-term or long-term goals. Envisioning the dream together helps to make sure you’re not just planning solo.
Say nothing and just hold each other by a fire, on the porch, or while looking out the window. Sometimes saying nothing or doing nothing at all is all you need to feel the love of your partner.
Walk or jog. Just like hitting the gym, you can walk or jog and talk at the same time. You should always have a walking or jogging buddy anyway. Why not create that partnership with the one you cherish most?
That saying, “you reap what you sow”truly has truth here. You aren’t willing to initiate some effort to reigniting or continuing the fire in yourself, that’s up to you. Just don’t complain about your relationship if you contributed to it being dull and cold.
